All you need is a cheap USB card reader to connect your camera's memory card directly to your computer's USB slot.
When the card is recognized, use Windows Explorer or (Mac) Finder to do the copying for absolute total control of what goes where exactly.
If you are looking for software to handle RAW files, look into the CD that came with the camera. If you don't have it, download a copy from your camera brand's official website.
If you are looking for graphic manipulation programs, you can buy commercial releases like Photoshop and Corel or download a freeware release like Gimp and Irfanview.
Now you know!